Vagaries of Life.

Each year of my life was a special one for me........because each year I learned some thing new.......about life, about people and about the way the world is , Its like I'm being performance turned now ..........with blows from some ends...with enchantment of my own.....without tying the loose ends and gathering the loose bits and pieces......

Well these 25 years were just superb and the coming ones will be even better, with Maaji, Papa, Bhai and Dee who know only to love. They are the ones who have supported me till date.With friends who just like me the way I'm, though there were cases of unmatched frequencies of thoughts with some and they stopped talking to me.....but still I do remember them often. When I look back at my childhood I realize that a woman paints the child's experiences in her own fantasy. I had a childhood full of joys and sorrows which have lost their touch with time. Many incidents of vital importance have been forgotten in the excitement of great discoveries. This never ending quest of new discoveries has turned me into a very inquisitive and argumentative kind of a person. From the very start I wanted to know the reason for every occurrence around me. I rarely spoke without any reason. Speech was never a medium to express my self or what I thought. The incidents in the 15th year of my life were responsible for the sudden awakening of my soul, after which my desire to express grew and from that day I haven't looked back. As I started expressing my views I came to have a better understanding of people and this world. My thinking evolved gradually as I met more and more people. It turned me into a more imaginative and ambitious person. I grew up in an environment which was full of love, peace and freedom. I was never forced into anything that I didn't want to do. All decisions were mine and I regret none of them. My ideas had been vague from the very start and later as my knowledge grew I turned into a more practical creature but frankly I still think a bit superficially. I studied various subjects but was always fascinated by reasons more than numbers. (That is why I guess I've good analytical capability). The most amazing thing in these years has been that the best time of my life has been the worst time too.... or.... should I say the worst time was the best time I had and that was in the last years of my school life. I experienced zenith and nadir in the same period of my life. This was the phase in which for the first time in life joy deserted my heart and for a long time I lived in doubt, anxiety and fear. Books lost their relevance for me. It was a difficult phase to come through but eventually I came through it with a totally new and more positive prospective. I have missed many opportunities in life and have learned my lessons the hard way which made me tenacious and careful.I'm glad that all this happened to me making me better with each stroke. The college was just a polishing institute to know the reasons practically but it turned out to be the other way round and made me a better human being rather than a good engineer and yes I owe many other things to my college. The people I have met so far made a huge difference in my life, would I have been able to enrich this writeup with their names it would have been difficult to complete it. Some are close to me and many others while others are totally unknown, but their influence shall live immortally in the lives of many like me that they sweetened and touched.                

Thanks to you all.         

Power of our mind...........living for a purpose.

Our mind is very powerful which governs us and the first thing that it generates is a thought. A thought that can come into any bodies mind. We all think and connect to each other. Like I’m thinking something here and that thought is manifested in somebody else, in some other place. Distance makes no difference. The thought goes and reaches the other man, and he understands it. If the mind were to be isolated than this wouldn’t have happened in the first place.  My thought is not reaching you directly, but it is getting dissolved with the ethereal vibrations entering your brain and they have to be resolved again onto your own thought. I dissolute the thought and there is resolution of thought.

The world is one of influence. We try to influence people through our bodies, virtues, intellect and spirituality and vice versa. For example a man comes who is well learned, has a beautiful language and speaks to you for hours but does not make an impression and on the other hand their comes another man who speaks a few words, not well arranged with grammatical mistakes but leaves an impression. This happens a lot of time and all of us have experienced this. So it is evident that words alone cannot always produce an impression, there are other contributing factors. Words and thoughts contribute a small part in making an impression, other parts being the man himself and the persona of the character, these all taken together makes an impression. All the great leaders in the past had all these things. How many thoughts have they thought? And may be we still are thinking the same thoughts. The real thoughts, new and genuine that have been thought in this world up to this time, amount to only a handful. The people before us have left us their thoughts in their writings or in those ethereal vibrations. They have left us their thoughts but they might not be so influential. Why?  The reason I can thought of is that the personality has gone now. The words and thoughts contribute only a small part may be one-third and the two-third being contributed by the personality of the man that runs through someone to make an impression. There is no use polishing the outside of the lamp shade when the light bulb inside does not work. In the same way there is no use making one spread the inner light to the world outside, when there is no inner enlightenment. The man of influence put upon anything can make it work. The problem being that these kinds of men are hard to find. But we can make ourselves like this, by fine tuning our own personalities. Try to make difference to the life, take out the ideas from your intellect, don’t just touch life, live it and feel it and make the best out of it. Fine tune it to leave an example for generations to come. Don’t wait for an example to be set, be an example yourself. Don’t consider yourself weak, if you do so then think about this that every weak thing contributes to every strong thing. For example a brick is considered not that strong but it can hurt you or when put in a building can protect from the extreme weather. We may be on the thicker side of intellect right now but keep tapering the rough edges to make it finer and finer to be the finest.

            

There is only this: Pure Silence.

To be a good speaker one has to be a very good listener. As their is a famous quote " Think before you speak" and one can only speak about the things that one learns from the people with whom we interact, the humans we meet. The only reason that we humans are surviving with such vast numbers is that we help each other to survive and that is why we are called the social race. We use verbal language to communicate and that is what makes our thoughts come out. That is the way we express ourselves. This way of communicating through speech is found in us only at such an advanced stage.
On an average we meet hundreds of people and not particularly in the sense that we interact with them all, it includes the people around us to whom we may have glanced during the day. There are very few good listeners in our society, when we hear someone, immediately some ideas or curious questions arises in our mind and then we want to query and this is where we stop listening to a person and now we want our queries to be answered without knowing that they might be answered once the speaker finishes. The more we listen the more we learn. Our mind is educated, smashed and programmed to think that way. The human evolution is the result of these never ending questions, as we tried to solve every mystery of life.
Our brain is curious to know, but one could learn more quickly if we hold back our questions for the time when someone is speaking. The questions can be answered later. Generally these things happen when we interact one on one with someone. The curiosity is crushed when we are being publicly addressed as masses. The human mind always asks questions and its hard to answer all of them Sometimes its hard to answer all the questions that arouses from within you. So their is only one thing that prevails...................................... pure silence.              

Into the heaven of freedom : India

Today we celebrate the Independence day of this great nation of ours. On this occasion I feel proud and extend my greetings to my fellow citizens and pray for peace, progress and prosperity. 63 years ago on this very day at the stroke of midnight we attained freedom from colonial rule and we became masters of our own destiny marking the end of the struggle for home rule and I take this moment to bow to all those who gave their lives to give us this today, an Independent India. Since then 6 decades have gone by and I can assure all you pure souls up their that we have just moved forward as a whole nation on the path of building a strong, united and prosperous India.
All in all the time has been momentous for us, despite the internal and external forces trying to tear this nation apart, we've been holding strong and have kept the flame of democracy alive. India is today looked upon as the largest and most vibrant democracy in the world. In recent years India has been well known the world over for adapting a more liberal and modern approach to life keeping our invaluable cultural and traditional values intact. We are a huge country and I know that we are a long way from eradicating our problems of poverty, illiteracy and health issues, but we can work collectively, then only these problems can be dealt with and also this will make us realize what a strength we are.We are a symbol of strength and resilience which comes from the unity of our diverse culture, languages and religions. We are provided with stability in the form of Indian constitution which not only provides us fundamental rights and freedoms but also lay down fundamental duties. Often we are vocal about our rights but we often tend to forget our other duties, towards the country, society and family of which we can ignore none and at the same time we must act responsibly to make this nations of ours rise above all. Great nations are built with the contribution and hard work of one and all. So do your bit. Proud to be an Indian.

JAI HIND.       

Break ups and Patch ups........................................

I thought of writing about break-ups and patch-ups as two of my very good friends often breakup and later patch up to again breakup to patchup again. I know its hard to swallow, the same is the case with me so I thought about it and tried to find out.
Breakups as they sound not only breaks up the relationships but they often break up the person.After a breakup one either moves in life or gets back together again, but most people move without knowing why they moved on and a few would get back together, but unfortunately many will suffer for a long time because of the heartbreak. My friends belong to the elite group of people who get back together.Breakup brings the phase in which one is vulnerable to depression, and both parties suffer unless the breakup is mutual. Its the time when one feels sorrow and anger and takes life changing decisions and the decisions taken in this state are never rational. This state of sorrow and anger is due to the fact that  when breakup happens one feels he/she is not going to find true love again.(So do try atleast once to win back your love) Its always hard to go through the pain of breakup, its a state of loneliness, depression and desperation. The things that are hardest to get are usually the most wanted and your love wants to make you realize how hard he/she is to get, despite knowing that the pain of a breakup is only going to tear them apart and no one else. So I came to the conclusion that my beautiful friends deeply love each other that is the reason why they patchup again and again. Each of them cannot see other in the state of sorrow and anger , in pain and depression. There are conflicts in relationships because each one of us see things differently. Most people who have true affair are not self centered, cold hearted or cheaters. 
People generally realize after breakup that what a big mistake they have committed. Overwhelmed, they are stuck, unable to make decisions yet want the best for those they love. The need is to take an in - depth look into their relationship, assess its strengths and weaknesses and determine personal preferences, needs and future directions so that a breakup may not happen ever again or for that matter may not happen in the first place.
No matter what happens in life, not only does something valuable comes out of it but its just what you need.So keep enjoying your break-ups and patch ups.