Break ups and Patch ups........................................

I thought of writing about break-ups and patch-ups as two of my very good friends often breakup and later patch up to again breakup to patchup again. I know its hard to swallow, the same is the case with me so I thought about it and tried to find out.
Breakups as they sound not only breaks up the relationships but they often break up the person.After a breakup one either moves in life or gets back together again, but most people move without knowing why they moved on and a few would get back together, but unfortunately many will suffer for a long time because of the heartbreak. My friends belong to the elite group of people who get back together.Breakup brings the phase in which one is vulnerable to depression, and both parties suffer unless the breakup is mutual. Its the time when one feels sorrow and anger and takes life changing decisions and the decisions taken in this state are never rational. This state of sorrow and anger is due to the fact that  when breakup happens one feels he/she is not going to find true love again.(So do try atleast once to win back your love) Its always hard to go through the pain of breakup, its a state of loneliness, depression and desperation. The things that are hardest to get are usually the most wanted and your love wants to make you realize how hard he/she is to get, despite knowing that the pain of a breakup is only going to tear them apart and no one else. So I came to the conclusion that my beautiful friends deeply love each other that is the reason why they patchup again and again. Each of them cannot see other in the state of sorrow and anger , in pain and depression. There are conflicts in relationships because each one of us see things differently. Most people who have true affair are not self centered, cold hearted or cheaters. 
People generally realize after breakup that what a big mistake they have committed. Overwhelmed, they are stuck, unable to make decisions yet want the best for those they love. The need is to take an in - depth look into their relationship, assess its strengths and weaknesses and determine personal preferences, needs and future directions so that a breakup may not happen ever again or for that matter may not happen in the first place.
No matter what happens in life, not only does something valuable comes out of it but its just what you need.So keep enjoying your break-ups and patch ups.        

What is love?

If You Love Sum1 Then Remember...... Very often when we meet sum1, he or she belongs to sum1 else..... Its so funny how we set qualifications for the right person to love while at the back of our minds we know that the person we truely love will always be an expectation!!!! There would come a time when we have to stop loving sum1 not bcoz that person started hating us but bcoz we find that they'd be happy if we let them go. You will know you really love sum1 when u want him to be happy even if their happiness means you're not a part of it!!!! If sum1 comes into your life and becomes a part of you, but for some reasons he couldn't stay... DONT CRY TOO MUCH!!!!! Just be glad your paths crossed and somehow he made you happy even for a while. There are a few things that we never want to let go; Some people you never want to leave behind; But keep in mind that letting go is not the end of the world but rather it is the BEGINNING OF A NEW LIFE!!!! Just bcoz sum1 doesn't love you the way you want him or her to doesn't mean they don't love you... REMEMBER.... The best relationship is when your love for each other is greater than your need for each other. Giving sum1 all your love is not an assurance that he or she will love you back... Don't expect love in return, wait for it to grow in his or her heart. If it doesn't, be content it grows in you. It takes a minute to have a crush on sum1.... An hour to like sum1.... A day to fall in love with sum1.... But it takes a lifetime to forget sum1 you have grown to love!!!! And finally REMEMBER.... Love is rather complicated, but i'll tell u this, "THE SECOND YOU ARE WILLING TO MAKE YOURSELF MISERABLE TO MAKE SOMEONE ELSE HAPPY THAT'S LOVE!!!!"