There is only this: Pure Silence.

To be a good speaker one has to be a very good listener. As their is a famous quote " Think before you speak" and one can only speak about the things that one learns from the people with whom we interact, the humans we meet. The only reason that we humans are surviving with such vast numbers is that we help each other to survive and that is why we are called the social race. We use verbal language to communicate and that is what makes our thoughts come out. That is the way we express ourselves. This way of communicating through speech is found in us only at such an advanced stage.
On an average we meet hundreds of people and not particularly in the sense that we interact with them all, it includes the people around us to whom we may have glanced during the day. There are very few good listeners in our society, when we hear someone, immediately some ideas or curious questions arises in our mind and then we want to query and this is where we stop listening to a person and now we want our queries to be answered without knowing that they might be answered once the speaker finishes. The more we listen the more we learn. Our mind is educated, smashed and programmed to think that way. The human evolution is the result of these never ending questions, as we tried to solve every mystery of life.
Our brain is curious to know, but one could learn more quickly if we hold back our questions for the time when someone is speaking. The questions can be answered later. Generally these things happen when we interact one on one with someone. The curiosity is crushed when we are being publicly addressed as masses. The human mind always asks questions and its hard to answer all of them Sometimes its hard to answer all the questions that arouses from within you. So their is only one thing that prevails...................................... pure silence.              

I'm loosing my friends

Recent events in my life have thrust me into evaluating what the word friend means to me.  I’ve had few friends in my life. The word friend is totally different from the friendly acquaintance. The friendly acquaintances are those who know something about us and litter our lives with phrases like “How are you today?” or “How is the weather today?”  They are nice to be around but cannot fulfill a place of a friend. I realize that some friends in our life are for reason and others for a season. Some of our best friends come from the animal kingdom especially dogs.
A friend is a hard word to define just like love and varies from person to person. According to me a friend is one who honor’s you and likewise you honor him. A friend should have your back even when you aren’t looking and would never know. He/she should know the strengths and weaknesses and help you when one or the other becomes out of balance. When you fuckup big time, a friend, without making excuses for you or helping you point a finger in different directions helps you through it. A friend is one who was there when you first got drunk. He/she was there to hear all about your first crush. I’ve been blessed with very few but good friends, whom I don’t see or talk to very often but they are all unique and important in their own way,. Have I been a real friend that I could have been, I doubt it, but I aspire to be one.
True friendship is hard work. Both have to put in the effort to keep it thriving but it’s worth it. Friends are people you are most comfortable with. They are loyal to the bone and they long ago earned your trust with their constant support and understanding. I know people who are everyone’s friend. I am a friendly acquaintance to everyone I meet, but I have few people who are close to me. Recently may be one less. So I’m trying to figure it out, may be its my definition of friendship, may be I expect too much……………..but I cannot lower the bar, no matter if I’m lonely one day with just friendly acquaintances around me.




   

A matter of great concern!

Shaheed Bhagat Singh’s towering 18-feet bronze statue in the Parliament looked lonely today, with just one MP turning up to pay floral tributes at it on the occasion of Martyrs’ Day. The Parliament gave them a miss. No official commemoration of the same was held and no intimation published in the bulletin for parliamentarians.And all this happened on the day when Prime Minister Mr. Manmohan Singh, lok Sabha Speaker Meira Kumar, BJP leader L K Adwani, Sushma Swaraj visited the parliament house to pay homage to Mr Ram Manohar Lohia on his birth anniversary. On Lohia's portrait which hangs in the same place where on 8th April 1929 Bhagat Singh and Batukeshwar Dutt threw bomb to make deaf Britishers listen to their demand of complete independence (pooran sawaraj), the visiting dignitaries offered flowers to Lohia's portrait while the Bhagat singh's statue just yards away got flowers from only one dignitary visitor our Sports Minister Mr. M S Gill. This is a matter of great concern and shame that our leaders has forgotten the heroes of our history who kissed the gallows with ease and our leaders today are just money and power hungry. Do they really deserve to be our leaders? Have we got the right group of people to take India forward? Are we represented by the right people.

JAI HIND!